Dylan's Page

My name is Dylan and I am a transman.

Just a small background on me; I grew up in a home with very Christian (I would say “Bible Banger”) parents. Church every Sunday and prayers before meals were the norm. I lived with both of my biological parents who are still married. One of my earliest feelings of being a boy was when I was in elementary school. Sitting in children’s church of all places. I was in the back row, arms on each of the chairs beside me but no one sitting in the chairs. I spread my legs to look a little more masculine and remember thinking I wish I could sit like this with a girl under my arm. I then started to imagine myself with my wife when I got older and there I was; a man holding a woman. Waking up every morning, shaving my face going to work and supporting my wife and kids.

It has now been two years since I met my fiancee and one year since I came out to her that I am a transman. I have not started T, therapy or any of my surgeries. I still live at home with my parents because together my fiancee and I dont make enough to move out and start everything for me. For now I have done seemingly small things that have made me feel just that much more comfortable in my own skin. For example I stopped shaving my legs, arms and arm pits. My family keeps questioning me as to why I did that and I just make up a stupid excuse or change the subject. My fiancee is very supportive of me but she was a strong lesbian before I came out to her and she is now having to deal with being in a homosexual relationship to being in a heterosexual one. I know things are hard for her but I have a hard time consoling her or helping her because I’m the one causing the problems. One day she will talk about changing all day long with me and the next I feel like she resents me for making her change who she is to be with me. We both love each other more than the world but this has definitely put a strain on our relationship, which I hate. I’ve been told by a few people that couples that go through transition together do not stay together after for one reason or another, I however am here to tell you that even thought I have only barely begun my transition it is possible to stay with the same person.


In this blog I do NOT speak for every transman out there. I speak for myself and myself only. If you have any questions feel free to comment and I will answer to the best of my knowledge.

-Dylan